You can negotiate almost anything . Do you know how to get what you want? Do you know how to hypnotize someone else into seeing the outcome you desire? The world is a huge negotiation table, like it our not, we are all negotiators that use hypnosis on one level or another. How well you learn to hypnotize yourself will determine how well you handle your daily relationships, in either business or personal affairs, and how well you develop your negotiation skills will determine how well you will achieve the results you desire.
We hypnotize ourselves everyday to want things. This is a good thing, whether it is money, family, fame, love, material things, awards, acknowledgement, health, or safety we all have wants. These things keep our mind moving and our spirits growing. We just need to get clear on what we really want then the rest becomes fun.
When I speak of negotiation, I am referring to the use of information and power to affect behavior within different relationships to get what you want. Parents have you ever had to remove your child with power into a safe environment because they wouldn't listen to you when you told them not to go there? You knew you wanted your child safe beyond a doubt and you took whatever means necessary to protect them. Spouses, have you ever had to occasionally take a stand with one another to highlight an unconscious behavior or set up a new boundary as you grow, and how about bosses with employees when highlighting expectations and employees when highlighting your contributions? Everyday in every relationship we dance through a series of negotiations.
Always consider these three things when determining what you want
1. Time frame you are working with
2. Power required to reach your desire (mentally and physically)
3. Information the other side has of you and you of them in relation to where you are wishing to go
Let's just use an example when can all relate to:
I picked the above picture in the hopes that it would get attention and call you in to read this. For the sake of this lesson let's pretend they are married. I believe all relationships are win win because, we are always learning about ourselves even if we aren't getting our desired outcome. First, what INFORMATION does this woman know about this man? She knows it's five o'clock and he has a meeting at seven with business partners, so she is now determining what she wants. She knows she would love a back rub, however in the past she has asked and he has said he didn't have time. Now she must be careful not to let her past experience determine the current moment. She must step into her POWER by hypnotizing herself to go to a new place of using her voice and asking for exactly what she wants. Her ultimate desire is to have a back rub so she must ask for it. Time is two hours according the the information he provided- or is it? If a back rub is really what she wants she may ask something like this- Would you prefer to give me a back rub before, or after your meeting. This way she is negotiating what she wants in a TIME that will work for both of them.This is a loving question that allows him a choice that results in her desired outcome. This is a win win negotiation :). Enjoy having some fun learning to hypnotize yourself to overcome your fears and beliefs around negotiating and start seeing how powerful you really are.
Affirmation: I am an excellent negotiator
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