Are you living in the same house separated, or are you separated not living in the same house at all? You may even be living in the same house doing all things together and still be separated. Here is the question to ask, how well do you know your partner and how open are you being about who you are?
Benjamin Franklin said to consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others. I say get clear in yourself and communicate that to others and be loved for who you are instead of changing who you are and the frustration goes away.
Frustration comes from not knowing what you like and guessing what your partner does. Why guess what will make someone happy based on who you are, when you will usually be wrong! Ask your partner directly what they like- what are their favorite colors, movies, toys, ways to be touched, hobbies, blankets, pillows, pets, kids, finances, cuddle patterns, religion, foods, and habits. No matter how long you have been together each day is a new day and we are exposed to new things and we have a choice to see the world in a new light. Pretend each day is a new date and you get to learn your partner for the very first time.
If you can think of each day as a new day to date your partner you will always fall in love. You get to choose to let go of the past and meet them in the moment. Look at them, reintroduce yourself to them and let them know what you like. Be completely honest with how you feel in every moment and rediscover, relearn, and relive, to the fullest of your ability and remember to celebrate who you are and who you are becoming.
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