Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Say me then we!



Have you become so focused on what other people are doing that you have forgotten that you actually need to focus on you?
Notice the flowers in the picture, alone they are beautiful alone and together they are breathtaking. Just like a healthy relationship. Beautiful is achievable as long as you are aware of what is not healthy. 
Are you the person who cares so much about others that you need to control events and know every moment of the day what is happening with the other person because you are so attached you become afraid of being left out? Do you in a day count how many times you thought about them and their desires and compared it to how many times  you think about you and your desires only to find, the whole day you never thought about what you wanted!?!?
If you have answered yes to any of these questions please get to know this word CODEPENDENT.  In this moment, the goal is to make you aware of the behaviors so that there is an opportunity to move to COEMPOWERMENT, a much healthier choice for relationship.  In a codependent relationship, the first key that you are becoming unhealthy is that you are becoming excessively worried about and preoccupied with a problem or person where emotionally your life and its joy hinges on the wishes of another.  It is dangerous to attach to yourself to the idea that a person needs you and that over attachment is exactly what keeps your life in a state of chaos.
If you ever begin thinking about, becoming obsessed with someone or something it starts to become a habit in your mind that must be stopped. Retraining your mind to focus on you or possibly training your mind to think of you for the first time in your life, requires serious focus and concentration. Hypnosis is the quickest way to help with this, however  just by getting honest with yourself and becoming aware of your thoughts, you can then make a shift.
Remember, you deserve the best and your mind plays games based on the way it was trained. To make sure you are being honest with yourself you have to keep track at first of the thoughts you think and then create an equal amount of thoughts for yourself instead of the other person. This will move you to coempowerment.  It will create a new habit of valuing the meaning of your life, your dreams, your fun, and creativity. Once you get good at shifting your thoughts, you then can express what is on your heart and both honor each other from a place of authenticity and this is where healthy relationship begins. Love energy matched with love energy and healthy minds, beautiful flowers, beautiful bouquets. 
Affirmation:
I choose to be in coempowered relationships where I think of me then we!  

Dream it, Believe it, Plan it, Achieve it!
Hugs, Kisses, Love and Positive Wishes,
Your Hypnocoach,
Amy Emme



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