The Hypnosis Behind...Being Sexy

The Hypnosis Behind... Being Sexy

Being a Hypnocoach my goal for every client that comes to me is to take them to the next level. I was just remembering a group session I had and in one of the exercises in this particular group there was a running theme among some of them- they were not feeling sexy! I want everyone to understand and feel how sexy they are! how sexy life is and how sexy is a belief system. You can choose sexy at any moment :).


There are many different definitions of sexy and so I prefer to describe what I interpret it to mean for the purpose of this blog. I am working on a book right now that will be ready for editing in August and I'll keep you posted on the release date where I will go into huge detail on this. However,  to open the topic up, sexy is in your walk, your talk, your belief that you deserve to enjoy life to the fullest. You deserve to live in the sexual energy that makes your heart pump and your voice sing. You deserve to embrace that sexy part in you that  loves your body, all of it. You deserve to be confident in who you are and desire to be with yourself and if in relationship, with your mate.

The challenge with most people is that they are trying to be sexy for someone else and they are not believing it at their core. When is the last time you dressed up for you and for you only. When was the last time you bought yourself a new outfit for example where you knew you looked hot and felt great walking in it. When is the last time you loved all of you? When have you stood in the mirror and appreciated your body for all it has done over the years to serve you? I appreciate even my wrinkles because I know I earned them and they are sexy to me because it is a sign of  wisdom and success that I am progressing through life confident at any age.

Try this get some grape seed oil, or coconut oil and treat yourself to a massage by yourself. Get in touch with every little part of you. Explore and embrace all of you and really feel you, touch and appreciate you. Put on some great music- I'm listening to Opera as I type this and feeling sexy- it is a state change a place of real love for yourself and those who are fortunate to encounter your presence. Have some scented candles and look at yourself in the mirror often and say I AM SEXY! Engage all 5 of your senses. Taste yourself with a kiss to you- this may sound silly if you have never got in touch with yourself at this level and it will feel so strange and it is ok. The more strange it feels the more you need it! Remember if you don't feel or believe you are sexy who else can? It all starts with you and what you believe.  So practice embracing the sexy side of you!

Hypnosis gets results!
Remember
Dream it, Believe it, Plan it, Achieve it!
Hugs, Kisses, Love, and Positive Wishes,
Your Performance Hypnocoach!
Dr. Amy Emme
http://www.amyemme.com/

The Hypnosis Behind...Moving Forward

The Hypnosis Behind...Moving Forward

Imagine money burning in front of you and you can't touch it. How does that make you feel? What is your attachment to money? Does it prove to the world you are valuable? Does it prove it to your spouse to you? Who are you with it? Who are you without it?

It is so interesting for me to observe the attachment to money many of my clients have. As you know I help many people move from amateur to professional in the sports and entertainment arenas. One of the things they first say when they come to me is that the money they will make from being successful in these careers is a dream for them. That I have to reassure them is a bonus and if they are doing it for the money usually they will not be successful. Money comes and money goes and the real mindset to success is finding the joy in what you are doing along the way. In this economy so many of my friends are now struggling with this in their lives. We all made so much money in 04-06 and now they have lost all of it and are rediscovering who they are.

In relationships do you place more value on those people that provide money to you, or  can you see someones value with out financial contribution. I actually had a client who lost money (she believes it was taken out of her purse) and instead of consoling her, her husband lectured her on how she should have been more responsible and went on and on about how she should have put it in the bank attempting to make her feel even more horrible than she already did.  Where does he place his value?The challenge we have in our society right now is that in order to take the focus off of how we are feeling we turn to focusing on how others are doing or did wrong. We go to the blame game and place value on the wrong things. Now is the time to become aware what would you have done if you were married to someone who lost money you needed to keep a roof over your head what would have been your reaction? Here is where you can learn your belief system. Go to this scenario.

The spiral down is deep! If you don't feel in your heart that connection to your goodness ASK FOR HELP! You are not your money or what you contribute financially. Money is only an emotional trigger for many people to learn about themselves. When you discover the joy in what you do for yourself and others you will start to attract people who will take notice and want to reward you financially for your services of joy and the gifts you bring. The most challenging thing for you to overcome is the voice in your head that attaches your value with a dollar amount. This is your time to  be in a place to ask yourself who are you proving yourself too? Please understand I am not saying not to value financially planning and being smart with your money, I am simply saying that you money is not you! It will come in waves once you discover your joy in expressing your gifts! Hypnotize yourself to see your value, joy and to see the value and joy in those around you and I promise you will have your greatest return in investment ever!

Hypnosis gets results!
Remember
Dream it, Believe it, Plan it, Achieve it!
Hugs, Kisses, Love, and Positive Wishes,
Your Performance Hypnocoach!
Dr. Amy Emme
http://www.amyemme.com/

The Hypnosis Behind...Relationships

The Hypnosis Behind...Relationships

Ever feel like you can't get along with someone they are just too different? Ever think that people just don't get you? Did you ever feel like it is just tooo.. hard to be in a relationship and life is easier alone?

This weekend I thought of this idea as I was watching our friends kitten meet our chihuahua. They so wanted to play with each other and it was their first meeting. It so reminded me of how all relationships are. We hypnotize our self that it would be cool to play with the new person yet we are not sure how they play. Just like a cat and dog we all are different we come from different backgrounds, belief systems, conscious and unconscious programming that determines how we play an interact.

Take for example my dog, to date he has only been around dogs. He puts his head lower than his butt, wags his tail like crazy, may whine and bark a little, sniff the butt of the other dog, pee on things and run around. However, when he tried to do that with the kitty this weekend the he was met with claws and some abrupt smacks in the face. He just had this puzzled look on his face yet was determined to be friends. Like us right, if we don't get understood the first time we adjust and go with another approach. The cool thing was, my dog was so forgiving he just got smacked in the face with claws and he still wanted to play. (Wish humans were more like dogs and understood they could get over things just as fast :))

He came in a second time slower and not so in the face, going with his butt first this time and the kitty was now sniffing and tapped him on the butt with out claws. It was so fun to observe and  I thought of so many of my married clients who come for relationship help. It was the exact same approach they used. Constantly changing positions and doing their best to try to understand each other although feeling unsure and strange all while have a huge desire to play and love one another. I mean they are no different than cats and dogs when you consider how different we are all brought up. Some of us are told to believe we are cats and some of us dogs yet with patience and a willingness to understand how we have been hypnotized by others to believe this we can learn new ways and all get along. Just like the picture above shows we can all get along, work together, and even support and benefit from one another, so does understanding how you have been hypnotized your whole life to believe what you do now. With hypnosis you can adopt new understanding and get along with anyone willing to understand where there beliefs come from too!  If other species can get along and love one another for the benefit of all surly "Humans" can just get along with each other to start!
This is me loving you! This is my start! Enjoy!

Hypnosis gets results!

Remember
Dream it, Believe it, Plan it, Achieve it!
Hugs, Kisses, Love, and Positive Wishes,
Your Performance Hypnocoach!
Dr. Amy Emme
http://www.amyemme.com/

The Hypnosis behind...Believing what you think

The Hypnosis behind...Believing what you think

Would you like to have a whole lot more happiness in your life? Would you like to have a whole lot more peace in your life? How about freedom?

The quickest way to all these things is:

DON'T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU THINK!!

I have done so much research on this topic and answers to how many thoughts a person has per day vary from 1 to thousands. I found one article where a Tibetan monk had trained his mind so well that he had been able to focus and have only one thought a day. (I hope it was a happy one :). I have also worked with kids and adults of all walks of life healthy and mentally ill and am always fascinated  how the thoughts in their minds come out in words that constantly surprise me. It is always fascinating what thoughts people choose to believe and not believe. I have so many thoughts about life I know I wish I had a recorder plugged straight to my mind sometimes and then other days I'm so grateful I don't!

Seriously though, the biggest gift I bring as a performance hypnocoach is having the ability to help so many people through hypnosis discover what their thoughts are. First you have to become aware of you thoughts and hypnotize yourself not to have a reaction to them--- just observe them as if you were outside your body watching someones else's life. I crack up at myself so much when I do this. Things that used to piss me off and really ruin my day now make me laugh and I tell my mind thank you for sharing! Do this whenever you have a thought that seems to affect you, say Thank you for sharing and watch the power it once had over you disappear.

When I work with athletes training for the Olympics it is essential we train their mind as much, if not more, as their bodies! When you reach the level you are ready to be the best in the world it requires a trained mind. I love it! You get free when you free yourself from the chatter in your mind and you learn to observe your thoughts without giving them power. You are free and you will be the best in the world at being you! You become powerful the only one in control of your life oooo.... so powerful. Love yourself, observe your thoughts for one minute, make a hash mark on paper for every new thought and put a positive or negative by it to see if it is in support of your best self.  If you choose to get attached to it and allow it to keep you small, pay attention to this too.   Play with this I have some specific techniques I am preparing to share in upcoming blogs for now this is a great start. Be an observer in the movie of your life! Luvu!

DON'T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU THINK!!

Hypnosis gets results!

Remember

Dream it, Believe it, Plan it, Achieve it!

Hugs, Kisses, Love, and Positive Wishes,

Your Performance Hypnocoach!

Dr. Amy Emme

http://www.amyemme.com



The Hypnosis Behind... Youthfulness and Vigor

The Hypnosis Behind... Youthfulness and Vigor

Imagine a picture of the fountain of youth. Stretching into possibilities of any age. Last week at the clinic I had the most amazing day. After this day,  I took a few days of meditation to really absorb the miracle presented before me. I got to witness an amazing client who is one of my heroes, she was struck with a brain aneurysm at 18 and almost died. She was in a coma and when she finally became conscious she had to relearn everything from swallowing to walking and talking. I know amazing right. Well later that afternoon a woman with Alzheimers came in and I felt like I was on 50 first dates with her. To keep her comfortable we must have sung Jiggle Bells  over and over again (what felt like at least 30 times :). She would forget as soon as we sang and smile at me say Merry Christmas and we would start again. I was laughing and singing Jingle bells in June and discovering the joy in it.

How does all this have to relate with the fountain of  youth? I realized you can have a body that doesn't work with your brain and you can have a brain that doesn't work with your body and you can still remain young. The youth comes from believing in the possibilities and finding the joy in the small moments.It truly is where you turn back the clock and where time stands still.  I realize this is what keeps people young! It is their beautiful mindset of choosing happiness. They are in a habit of being happy! Do this for the next week start your day by saying "I choose happiness today" Make it an effort to see, be, do and feel happy and make those around you wonder why they can't get you down. Happiness is a choice and it keeps you young! You have all you need right now to be happy it is not something you will achieve once you have something else. Choose to be happy, choose to practice the habit of it and watch what happens. Take your control back and you will rediscover your youth!

Hypnosis gets results!
Remember
Dream it, Believe it, Plan it, Achieve it!
Hugs, Kisses, Love, and Positive Wishes,
Your Performance Hypnocoach!
Dr. Amy Emme
http://www.amyemme.com/

The Hypnosis Behind...Getting out of your own way!

The Hypnosis Behind...Getting out of your own way!

Hold Fast to your dreams, for if dreams die, life is like a broken winged bird that cannot fly.
~ Lanston Hughes

 How do you feel today? Do you feel like you are a volcano ready to erupt? Are you mad at the world and so pissed off that you are not feeling like being around anyone? Doesn't it just piss you off how it seems everyone is getting in the way of you reaching your dreams? Are you misunderstood? If only the kids wouldn't fight so I could have some peace and get my book written. If only my spouse could help more around here. If only my my boss would quit dumping more and more on me while he takes vacation. If only I was seen and heard. If only, If only, If only.....

Here is the truth, the only if only question you need to be asking is if only I could get off my butt and make a stand that I matter what would my life look like. IF ONLY you actually gave yourself some time to get clear and write down something you want to do, some of your dreams, and honor yourself by sticking to it. That's right if only you would hypnotize yourself that the only thing you need to get really get it, is that you matter and how you choose to create your life matters too!

Ask yourself... when was the last time you took yourself out on a date and in that quiet still moment gave yourself time to create what it is you want moving forward? What is it you admire and and what characteristics in yourself would you like to lead with? If you can't move on a project you are involved in get a new project one that supports you in the direction of your dreams,  using your skills, voice, and power. There is always an opportunity to be the best you.  Just select environments conducive to your growth and expression. We all have different gifts and it is time you get clear on what yours are and do something where you can use them. The result in not doing so is a slow painful death.

If you have taken on the belief system you are somehow less then important compared to someone else, STOP RIGHT NOW! Everyone on a team matters and a great team realizes that, a family team or corporate team, so make sure you are playing for team I MATTER and hypnotize yourself that nothing else will work!

Take the action step today to make that date with yourself, create that quiet time to create what is it you want moving forward. Establish your boundaries so you can clearly communicate them with all your relationships and start sticking up for and loving you! If you need help getting unstuck reach out and get it done! Most important though is just get started!

Hypnosis gets results!
Remember
Dream it, Believe it, Plan it, Achieve it!
Hugs, Kisses, Love, and Positive Wishes,
Your Performance Hypnocoach!
Amy Emme
www.amyemme.com

The Hypnosis Behind..... Living Your Dream in a Marriage.

The Hypnosis Behind..... Living Your Dream in a Marriage.

Perhaps you are scared, pissed, feeling hopeless, feeling like the person you married isn't at all the person they claimed to be. Maybe you feel trapped definitely misunderstood, not heard, or supported and your intimate life, forget it, you don't want to touch or be touched you are completely shut down. You don't know even how to get up much less look up for a brighter future. You think things would be so much easier if you just had to worry about you because the hope that they will do what they say and you believing them only to be let down again is so much more painful than just being alone and knowing it's up to you.  Or perhaps you believe someone else would understand that knight in shining armor that man and for the man that beautiful woman who will help you be all you know you were destined to. Yea, that's right that person you thought you were marrying. That person you thought you signed up for when you said your vows or maybe even the legal paper at the court house! Well.... here is the truth! Ready....

That is the hypnosis, you are living in a fantasy world. You hypnotized yourself when you fell in love with the idea you had of a person. You didn't fall in love with the person for who they were. When you are in love everything is beautiful your brainwash yourself and you see only the good because you are feeling good. That's right you see what you choose to see based on how you are feeling in a moment! If you are feeling bad you see all the horrible things, if you are feeling great, you love more. The key is, the person never changes only your perception of them does. That is why I had you write the list of things you couldn't stand and things you love.

Here we go an example from some of my clients:

+/-   Statements, Hidden Truths, Projections = What the real belief system is the real truth

I can't stand how my husband is unorganized = I feel out of control when I am unorganized
I can't stand it when my wife loses it              = I don't like how I feel about myself when I lose it
I love how my husband is great with the kids = I feel good about me when I am great with the kids

See what we see in others or can't stand is really what is going on for us it is called a projection. We see the world based on how we have perceived information as we learn it. The first step to learning how to live your dream is to realize your spouse is who they really are you just didn't see them for that.  The truth is, you saw them and see them as a projection of your ideas. It is time to get clear now and look at yourself and recheck your list and put yourself in every line and acknowledge where you are loving,  or are not loving you.  This is the first major step to your awareness and new life! Hypnotize yourself to focus on the good in you. Luvu you for being brave and wanting more! Hug yourself and we shall continue tomorrow!

Hypnosis gets results!
Remember
Dream it, Believe it, Plan it, Achieve it!
Hugs, Kisses, Love, and Positive Wishes,
Your Performance Hypnocoach!
Amy Emme
www.amyemme.com